tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-56365662024-03-07T17:04:13.794-05:00Thoughts That Get Stuck in My HeadHumor, entertainment, and geekery.<br><i>Still #1 in Colbert Fan Fiction!</i><br>Looking for my books? Fly on over to <a href="https://bysuelondon.com/">bysuelondon.com</a>.Sue Londonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12820606642097170654noreply@blogger.comBlogger38125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5636566.post-5313299274813369522023-04-22T14:18:00.000-05:002023-04-22T14:18:35.123-05:00The Dark Side<p>No, I'm not talking about the Force, at least not directly. I ran across an article about Jung's take on the Shadow and it's been a few years since I did my deep dive on Jung (inspired by the Synchronicity album, so that gives you a hint how long it's been). You can watch the whole thing as a video:</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen="" class="BLOG_video_class" height="266" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/8S__1h2Z2xI" width="320" youtube-src-id="8S__1h2Z2xI"></iframe></div><br /><p>Or you can <a href="https://academyofideas.com/2023/04/face-your-dark-side-carl-jung-and-the-shadow/" target="_blank">read it on their website</a>. I'm a text person so I haven't watched the video yet.</p><p>It's been awhile since I've considered my shadow self, and now that I'm older and wiser (at least older) it feels like I have more perspective on it, but less instinct of what that shadow might be. Am I more integrated, or more repressed? Difficult to say. I feel like <i>at my best</i> I am easygoing, accepting, and creative, and <i>at my worst</i> I am difficult, judging, and controlling. The other language I use to understand this are my Myers-Briggs personality type of INFP where my shadow (all INFP shadows) is a dark version of ESTJ. This has come out under stress at my day job a number of times.</p><p>If you know your MBTI you can check out the description of your assumed shadow at <a href="https://introvertdear.com/news/the-shadow-side-of-each-introverted-myers-briggs-type-explained/" target="_blank">Introvert, Dear</a>.</p><p>Another article for exploring your shadow is this one from <a href="https://www.mindfulnessmuse.com/individual-differences/identify-accept-your-shadow-self" target="_blank">Mindfulness Muse</a>. Personality Club has an interesting analysis of <a href="https://www.personalityclub.com/blog/complete-intro-to-mbti-shadow-functions/" target="_blank">Shadow Functions</a>. You may not know how functions work, but if you do it is an interesting read.</p><p>A quick visual primer on what the functions are all about:</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjTeIBByxZDYMGFYjveQ-_2Uain5s0CpOD1RIwN5pNSwQrsh2wJeczmDgOwfCSrsaT8KQzArWP0utfrliAsmuIvlU7oZAa7sl8Z9HtwibpR6cbeTv-g97JcOsCR34YtJ01Mz2T87B3RDnvY3aMI7f4yWA8lRKK3KS5uRaVntMU4jdSUnHMaww/s1285/functions.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="834" data-original-width="1285" height="208" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjTeIBByxZDYMGFYjveQ-_2Uain5s0CpOD1RIwN5pNSwQrsh2wJeczmDgOwfCSrsaT8KQzArWP0utfrliAsmuIvlU7oZAa7sl8Z9HtwibpR6cbeTv-g97JcOsCR34YtJ01Mz2T87B3RDnvY3aMI7f4yWA8lRKK3KS5uRaVntMU4jdSUnHMaww/s320/functions.png" width="320" /></a></div><br /><p>A quick visual primer on who has what primary functions:</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgYt_1090Kxgt6ulL7R4k94N2Yc1L2GhHAD78C7p1LdSo8EQnmi-ITdrZ242fHFZwZlXshCV3RxccDZdg5u1SuyKqr_3XrsS4jozJ2bqmRPXkOQDQHx6JoDOb_oZNFgYNsOPUt1pM675l961Ts2iLyMksn0tg4KNGCjfGfUUcxDRf3V7fwfiQ/s2048/Cognitive_Functions-byMBTI.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="2048" data-original-width="2048" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgYt_1090Kxgt6ulL7R4k94N2Yc1L2GhHAD78C7p1LdSo8EQnmi-ITdrZ242fHFZwZlXshCV3RxccDZdg5u1SuyKqr_3XrsS4jozJ2bqmRPXkOQDQHx6JoDOb_oZNFgYNsOPUt1pM675l961Ts2iLyMksn0tg4KNGCjfGfUUcxDRf3V7fwfiQ/s320/Cognitive_Functions-byMBTI.png" width="320" /></a></div><p><br /></p><p>As an INFP my primary and shadow functions look like this:</p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEha3khLPalc0uFDI0lB2A9rxu93EtEiLQPLxprWdLabgxIyiBXD4p1SbwMl-7Q_ATTLgQorZy6pfRt7LVjFAhgTgDGTcA4Kkj7E-pqtHbch4__fyNgAozwu5m1HHu4ZOhacMsVb66Xy0FDNpgswuh_zPOxEx0IHs_HIk4_L0VDJUvrouWhwhQ/s1080/INFP%20functions.webp" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="774" data-original-width="1080" height="229" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEha3khLPalc0uFDI0lB2A9rxu93EtEiLQPLxprWdLabgxIyiBXD4p1SbwMl-7Q_ATTLgQorZy6pfRt7LVjFAhgTgDGTcA4Kkj7E-pqtHbch4__fyNgAozwu5m1HHu4ZOhacMsVb66Xy0FDNpgswuh_zPOxEx0IHs_HIk4_L0VDJUvrouWhwhQ/s320/INFP%20functions.webp" width="320" /></a></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">So, an ESTJ's strengths are my weaknesses. I find this particular analysis fascinating because of the naming of the shadows. It makes me realize that most of my (INFP) and hubs (INTP) conflicts are solidly in that 'opposing role' territory where I have extroverted feeling and he has extroverted thinking. Personality Club writes about the Opposing Role: "This function acts in opposition to your dominant function, questioning the way it sees the world and the goals it sets. This is often the part of you that’s stubborn, argumentative, and refuses to go along with others and events. Basically, this is the part that will lash out when your ego is under threat. If used positively it can be used to strengthen and back up the dominant function, but few people use it in this way."</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">The most alien function for me is Introverted Thinking, and that doesn't surprise me. My husband, an INTP, has a brilliantly tidy and organized mind and I... do not. I mean sure, I think a lot, but everything is either very simple and linear or it's story. I'm really good friends with my fourth function, Extroverted Thinking, which is how I've succeeded at work in things like project management. It's why one of my favorite ways to relax is doing a crossword or logic puzzle. Introverted Thinking, when done right, is very rich and complicated thinking. Yeah, not so much. No science discovery prizes for me. I have a certifiable squirrel brain that leaps from thing to thing, never dwelling too deeply on anything logical or facty. To dwell I need story. Emotion. But apparently if I will just dig deeply enough the demon I will find is Introverted Thinking.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">What do you know about your Dark Side?</div></div><p></p>Sue Londonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12820606642097170654noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5636566.post-23881836667548615582015-09-12T19:44:00.001-05:002015-09-12T19:44:36.747-05:00Celebrate Good Times, Come On<table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: left; margin-right: 1em; text-align: left;"><tbody>
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One of my writing friends congratulated me on my book and author rankings today, which was really nice. Then she stumped me by saying "Hope you had a little celebration!" Because, see, I'm really bad at celebrating, and I think that's probably a bad way to be. That made me start doing my favorite thing - researching!<br />
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The first article I read promised to tell me "Why It's Important to Celebrate. A lot." Turns out they don't touch on celebrations so much as gratitude, but I see where they're going. And this is a great summary of why an attitude of gratitude is a key to a great life:<br />
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Daily gratitude writings resulted in higher reported levels of alertness, enthusiasm, determination, optimism and energy. Even better, those in the “gratitude” group experienced less depression and stress, were more likely to help others, exercised more consistently and made greater progress toward achieving personal goals. Dr. Emmons’ research also shows that those who celebrate their lives by practicing gratitude tend to be more creative, bounce back more quickly from adversity, have a stronger immune system and have stronger social relationships than those who don’t practice gratitude. “To say we feel grateful is not to say that everything in our lives is necessarily great,” he says, “It just means we are aware of our blessings.”
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<a href="https://lifereimagined.aarp.org/stories/4581-Why-It-s-Important-to-Celebrate-A-lot-&icid=MD-AA" target="_blank">"Why It's Important to Celebrate. A lot." on Life Reimagined</a></blockquote>
But are an attitude of gratitude and celebration connected more clearly? According CoreU Coaching, they are.<br />
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Look where celebration falls [in the Authentic Cycle of Probability] – right after gratitude and just before completion. That’s an extremely powerful stage of the cycle that should not be overlooked.<br />
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<a href="http://coreu.com/five-good-reasons-to-celebrate-more-often/" target="_blank">Five Good Reasons to Celebrate More Often on CoreU Coaching</a></blockquote>
In that article he reminds us that "Celebration is emotional nourishment." That sounds good to me. It sounds snuggly and yummy and all sorts of other positive things. Now I want me some celebration. If you're thinking you'd like to take time to celebrate a little but don't have any ideas (that's quite often a problem of mine), check out: <a href="http://daringtolivefully.com/simple-ways-to-celebrate-life" target="_blank">"50 Simple Ways to Celebrate" on Daring to Live Fully</a>.<br />
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Now, these concepts aren't exactly new to me. I knew about the Attitude of Gratitude. And heck, for years I've owned the book <a href="http://amzn.to/1FEy33x" target="_blank">"Ice Cream for Breakfast: If You Follow All the Rules You Miss Half the Fun."</a> Quite often I'm even the life of the party... but I probably planned the party. Honestly, I'd rather plan a party than attend one. But the thing that it feels like I need (other than reminders, obviously) is to know <i>how</i> I should celebrate.<br />
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Dr. Alice Chan is there for me and reminds me that I should do whatever is meaningful <i>to me</i>. Her example of this is great because so many of us (including herself) would never choose the reward - a full day of uninterrupted exercise. She also has one of my favorite quotes on this topic. "Celebration signals to your subconscious – and your inner critic – that you are thankful for the progress you are making toward your dream." That's a lovely way to look at it. Check out <a href="http://www.dralicechan.com/importance-of-celebration/" target="_blank">"Importance of Celebration" by Dr. Alice Chan</a>.<br />
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So what does Dr. Chan's advice tell me? I JUST CELEBRATED BY IGNORING EVERYTHING ELSE FOR 30 MINUTES AND RESEARCHING CELEBRATION. I really do love research. My husband gave me the nickname Soogle.<br />
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Meanwhile, that author who triggered this pontification? USA Today Bestseller Julie Johnstone, the same one who encouraged me to apply to BookBub again (the ad responsible for said surge in book and author rankings). I'm very grateful to have Julie in my life. She can be your BFF (Book Friend Forever) if you go visit her over at her website <a href="http://juliejohnstoneauthor.com/">http://juliejohnstoneauthor.com/</a> where you can check out her Romantic Regency Romps.Sue Londonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12820606642097170654noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5636566.post-309858858383830292014-06-14T14:21:00.000-05:002014-06-14T14:21:19.755-05:00"To be alive is to be vulnerable"<span style="color: #3d85c6;"><span style="font-size: x-large;"><span style="font-size: small;"><span style="color: black;">I was actually a little surprised at this result in the "<a href="http://www.playbuzz.com/gregs/what-emotion-are-you-guided-by" target="_blank">What Emotion Are You Guided By?</a>" quiz. Then again, I'm an INFP. We cover it up in various ways, but emotional vulnerability is kinda our thing. Feel free to share your result or thoughts in the comments below.</span></span></span></span><br />
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You are a very emotional, sensitive person. You act upon your feelings,
even if it's hurting you, and your strong and vivid emotions tend to get
the best of you. Being vulnerable is not a negative thing - it makes
you more aware of other people's emotions and when they might be hurt.
Trying to grow a thicker skin might be a good idea, but don't hurry.
Keep your tender soul alive for as long as you can, it's precious<br />
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<i>It doesn't take a talent to be mean</i><br />
<i>Your words can crush things that are unseen</i><br />
<i>So please be careful with me, I'm sensitive</i><br />
<i>And I'd like to stay that way.</i><br />
<i> ~ Jewel, I'm Sensitive</i></blockquote>
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“When we were children, we used to think that when we were grown-up we
would no longer be vulnerable. But to grow up is to accept
vulnerability... To be alive is to be vulnerable.” ~ Madeline L'Engle</blockquote>
Sue Londonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12820606642097170654noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5636566.post-54597186520857661852013-07-20T20:23:00.000-05:002013-07-20T20:25:27.725-05:00I Blind Myself With ScienceI took the Hello Quizzy Steampunk Style Quiz and came up as The Scientist. What is your result?<br />
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The Scientist</h4>
46% Elegant, 55% Technological, 40% Historical, 48% Adventurous and 23% Playful!<br />
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You are the Scientist, the embodiment of steampunk’s academic side. Where other technological styles might emphasize the gadgets of the genre, you realize there is more to science than doohickeys and gears. Your accessories are medical bags, test tubes, measuring instruments, and academic papers. You are more likely to carry a compass, quadrant, or ether-attuned spectrometer than a wrench or welding torch. You probably carry a timepiece, and your prolific reading gives you every right to wear spectacles. Perhaps the most distinctive feature of your style is that it combines the frock coats and bustle gowns of the 19th century with the trappings of Victorian science.<br />
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Try our other Steampunk test <a href="http://gdfalksen.livejournal.com/1340.html">here</a>.</div>
<a href="http://www.helloquizzy.com/tests/the-steampunk-style-test">Take The Steampunk Style Test</a> at <a href="http://www.helloquizzy.com/">HelloQuizzy</a>Sue Londonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12820606642097170654noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5636566.post-57501086941959795402011-04-02T09:00:00.028-05:002011-04-02T23:32:50.264-05:00Start Raining on My Parade (Goal Achievement Strategies)In my Life Away From Keyboard (<a href="http://jasonbyrne.wordpress.com/2011/03/18/geek-friendships-and-twitter/">LAFK</a>) one of my greatest interests is the area of personal leadership, which is a quick way of covering the areas of goals, achievement, personal growth, etc. From my first reading of <a href="http://www.amazon.com/How-Win-Friends-Influence-People/dp/1607962179?ie=UTF8&tag=thougthatgets-20&link_code=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969" target="_blank">How to Win Friends and Influence People</a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=thougthatgets-20&l=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969&o=1&a=1607962179" style="border: none !important; margin: 0px !important; padding: 0px !important;" width="1" /> at the age of 15 I was hooked and looking for more books with advice on how to improve your life. A lot of those books focus on creating positive visualizations in order to achieve peak performance so I was quite startled when the PsyBlog posted an article this week on <a href="http://www.spring.org.uk/2011/03/11-goal-hacks-how-to-achieve-anything.php">11 Goal Hacks: How to Achieve Anything</a> and it advised being more negative.<br />
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Negative? I spent years learning NOT to be negative. But I'm willing to try anything at least once, especially in this particular area, so I will be actively looking for ways to rain on my own parade and see how it works for goal achievement and attainment.<br />
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I'll start now by admitting to myself that maybe five people will read this post and no one will comment on it. Do I feel more motivated to achieve my blogging goals now? Not really...Sue Londonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12820606642097170654noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5636566.post-40328648372006091062011-02-26T10:02:00.000-05:002011-02-26T10:02:36.937-05:00Do I Know Who I Am?The Johari Window is a method of assessing personality awareness.<br />
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<tr><td style="background: none repeat scroll 0% 0% rgb(204, 204, 255); border: 1px solid rgb(0, 0, 0); padding: 4px; vertical-align: top; width: 50%;"><h2 style="margin: 0px;">Arena</h2><div style="font-size: 0.7em;">(known to self and others)</div><span style="color: blue; font-weight: bold;">witty</span></td><td style="background: none repeat scroll 0% 0% rgb(255, 204, 204); border: 1px solid rgb(0, 0, 0); padding: 4px; vertical-align: top; width: 50%;"><h2 style="margin: 0px;">Blind Spot</h2><div style="font-size: 0.7em;">(known only to others)</div><span style="color: #7f0000;">clever</span>, <span style="color: red; font-weight: bold;">friendly</span>, <span style="color: #7f0000;">intelligent</span>, <span style="color: #7f0000;">kind</span>, <span style="color: #7f0000;">modest</span>, <span style="color: #7f0000;">responsive</span>, <span style="color: #7f0000;">sympathetic</span></td></tr>
<tr><td style="background: none repeat scroll 0% 0% rgb(204, 255, 204); border: 1px solid rgb(0, 0, 0); padding: 4px; vertical-align: top; width: 50%;"><h2 style="margin: 0px;">Façade</h2><div style="font-size: 0.7em;">(known only to self)</div>helpful, loving, searching, sentimental, tense</td><td style="background: none repeat scroll 0% 0% rgb(204, 204, 204); border: 1px solid rgb(0, 0, 0); padding: 4px; width: 50%;"><h2 style="margin: 0px;">Unknown</h2><div style="font-size: 0.7em;">(known to nobody)</div><div style="font-size: 0.8em;">able, accepting, adaptable, bold, brave, calm, caring, cheerful, complex, confident, dependable, dignified, energetic, extroverted, giving, happy, idealistic, independent, ingenious, introverted, knowledgeable, logical, mature, nervous, observant, organised, patient, powerful, proud, quiet, reflective, relaxed, religious, self-assertive, self-conscious, sensible, shy, silly, spontaneous, trustworthy, warm, wise</div></td></tr>
</tbody></table><h2>Dominant Traits</h2><b>100%</b> of people think that CmdrSue is <b>friendly</b><br />
<b>100%</b> of people agree that CmdrSue is <b>witty</b><br />
<h3>All Percentages</h3><span style="color: #888888;">able (0%)</span> <span style="color: #888888;">accepting (0%)</span> <span style="color: #888888;">adaptable (0%)</span> <span style="color: #888888;">bold (0%)</span> <span style="color: #888888;">brave (0%)</span> <span style="color: #888888;">calm (0%)</span> <span style="color: #888888;">caring (0%)</span> <span style="color: #888888;">cheerful (0%)</span> <b>clever</b> (50%) <span style="color: #888888;">complex (0%)</span> <span style="color: #888888;">confident (0%)</span> <span style="color: #888888;">dependable (0%)</span> <span style="color: #888888;">dignified (0%)</span> <span style="color: #888888;">energetic (0%)</span> <span style="color: #888888;">extroverted (0%)</span> <b>friendly</b> (100%) <span style="color: #888888;">giving (0%)</span> <span style="color: #888888;">happy (0%)</span> <span style="color: #888888;">helpful (0%)</span> <span style="color: #888888;">idealistic (0%)</span> <span style="color: #888888;">independent (0%)</span> <span style="color: #888888;">ingenious (0%)</span> <b>intelligent</b> (50%) <span style="color: #888888;">introverted (0%)</span> <b>kind</b> (50%) <span style="color: #888888;">knowledgeable (0%)</span> <span style="color: #888888;">logical (0%)</span> <span style="color: #888888;">loving (0%)</span> <span style="color: #888888;">mature (0%)</span> <b>modest</b> (50%) <span style="color: #888888;">nervous (0%)</span> <span style="color: #888888;">observant (0%)</span> <span style="color: #888888;">organised (0%)</span> <span style="color: #888888;">patient (0%)</span> <span style="color: #888888;">powerful (0%)</span> <span style="color: #888888;">proud (0%)</span> <span style="color: #888888;">quiet (0%)</span> <span style="color: #888888;">reflective (0%)</span> <span style="color: #888888;">relaxed (0%)</span> <span style="color: #888888;">religious (0%)</span> <b>responsive</b> (50%) <span style="color: #888888;">searching (0%)</span> <span style="color: #888888;">self-assertive (0%)</span> <span style="color: #888888;">self-conscious (0%)</span> <span style="color: #888888;">sensible (0%)</span> <span style="color: #888888;">sentimental (0%)</span> <span style="color: #888888;">shy (0%)</span> <span style="color: #888888;">silly (0%)</span> <span style="color: #888888;">spontaneous (0%)</span> <b>sympathetic</b> (50%) <span style="color: #888888;">tense (0%)</span> <span style="color: #888888;">trustworthy (0%)</span> <span style="color: #888888;">warm (0%)</span> <span style="color: #888888;">wise (0%)</span> <b>witty</b> (100%) <br />
<div style="background: none repeat scroll 0% 0% rgb(238, 238, 238); border: 1px solid rgb(0, 0, 0); padding: 8px; text-align: center;">Created by the <a href="http://kevan.org/johari"><b>Interactive Johari Window</b></a> on 15.12.2010, using data from 2 respondents.<br />
You can <a href="http://kevan.org/johari">make your own Johari Window</a>, or <a href="http://kevan.org/johari?view=CmdrSue">view CmdrSue's full data</a>. </div><br />
Learn more about the Johari Window with <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Perspectives-self-communication-Technology-Communication/dp/B00092YM1W?ie=UTF8&tag=thougthatgets-20&link_code=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969" target="_blank">Perspectives on the self in communication: the cognition continuum and the Johari Window. (Special Issue: Advanced Technology.): An article from: Technical Communication</a><img alt="" border="0" height="1" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=thougthatgets-20&l=btl&camp=213689&creative=392969&o=1&a=B00092YM1W" style="border: medium none ! important; margin: 0px ! important; padding: 0px ! important;" width="1" />.Sue Londonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12820606642097170654noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5636566.post-60754198992360258702010-02-27T07:00:00.058-05:002010-03-05T01:21:01.764-05:00Guest Post: The New Personality Self Portrait (Corin from www.infpblog.com)It's so exciting! Today we have a guest post by Corin from <a href="http://www.infpblog.com/">www.infpblog.com</a> <a href="http://www.twitter.com/infpblog">@infpblog</a>. If you haven't had a chance to read his blog about living as (or living with) an INFP please <a href="http://www.infpblog.com/">go check it out</a>.<br /><br /><span style="font-size:large;"><b>The New Personality Self Portrait</b></span><br />by Corin<br /><br />I love the Myers-Briggs. I think it's a behavioral preference test not a personality test. On the Myers-Briggs, I'm an INFP which basically says I'm idealistic. However, the letters INFP can't tell anyone what I'm idealistic about. The MBTI doesn't determine values, interests, priorities or what kind of movies I like. For that, I prefer the New Personality Self-Portrait by John M. Oldham and Lois B. Morris<br /><br /><b>What is the Personality Self-Portrait</b><br /><br />The PSP test consists of 107 questions with Yes-No-Maybe answers. You answer Yes if the entire question is true. You answer No if none of it is true. You answer maybe if the question is partly true or if the answer is true sometimes and not others.<br /><br />For example, one of the questions is: "I typically get into very intense relationships, and I usually find my feelings about the other person change from one extreme to another. Sometimes I almost worship, and other times I can't stand, the person I'm involved with." If it's all true, you answer Yes. If you get into intense relationships but don't move from extremes then it's a Maybe.<br /><br />The Personality Self-Portrait is based off the Official Book of Crazy, otherwise known as the DSM-IV, The Diagnostic Statistics Manual. Psychologists use the manual to diagnose various psychological disorders. According the DSM-IV, there are 14 personality disorders. The Personality Self-Portrait posits the existence of 14 orders for each disorder, 14 personality styles that are not so excessive as to be categorized as a disorder.<br /><br />The Personality Styles are:<br /><br />Vigilant, Solitary, Idiosyncratic, Adventurous, Mercurial, Dramatic, Self-Confident, Sensitive, Devoted, Conscientious, Leisurely, Aggressive, Self-sacrificing, Serious<br /><br />A personality is not one style. The test score is a line graph of how a person is in every style. Most people have 2 or 3 styles that are the highest, 2 or 3 that are the lowest and everything else is mid-range. Occasionally, I've encountered people with one Style that is very dominant, though I haven't seen that many out of the 100 or so tests I've interpreted.<br /><br />Unlike the Myers-Briggs which types a person into 16 behavioral preferences, the PSP has 52,623,240,685,682,700 possible combinations.<br /><br /><b>What My Scores Mean</b><br /><br />I'll give a brief overview of my scores.<br /><br /><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"></div><div style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgOYMEWoLMwshaatsfAPtJ5887Ns2C2E1_Bq0w_h17GFOqfmYpAdRk7pnpiKYUneo4tQI7dOkzyoUGQB_TP4VDJe57XtgTZ3h8EdmLwvq9jwGuaTCZkuc_pAFaZER_4tDBOoA-w/s1600-h/PSP.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgOYMEWoLMwshaatsfAPtJ5887Ns2C2E1_Bq0w_h17GFOqfmYpAdRk7pnpiKYUneo4tQI7dOkzyoUGQB_TP4VDJe57XtgTZ3h8EdmLwvq9jwGuaTCZkuc_pAFaZER_4tDBOoA-w/s640/PSP.jpg" border="0" height="720" width="371" /></a></div><br />I interpret the test by looking at the highest and lowest scores. My highest are Idiosyncratic and Adventurous. Adventurous means I take risks. When I was younger, it use to be physical risks, usually involving sports with high chances of injury. Now the risks are more personal like career and self-development. Idiosyncratic tells you that instead of normal risky activities like skiing. I took more unconventional risks which translated as rock climbing and martial arts. These days my unconventional risks involve business ideas.<br /><br />My lowest styles are Dramatic and Serious. They are exactly like they sounds. I don't take life too seriously and since I'm zero in the Dramatic, I don't make things out to be bigger than they are to add drama to my life. I don't mind my life "boring". I think life is interesting enough without complicating it by reading too much into people and situations.<br /><br />When looking at the middle scores, the most important thing I note is what has changed and what remains the same. I've always been low on the Vigilant. I let people into my life easily. I share details about my life. I don't make them jump through hoops to prove they're trustworthy like highly Vigilant people.<br /><br />My Self-Confident has gone up which is to be expected as you get older if you set goals and accomplished them. My Conscientious has gone down because now that I have kids, Work isn't a priority. My Devoted has gone up. That's due to kids also. Highly Devoted people dedicate<br />their life to those close to them. Your life is their life. When it was just my wife and me, I was supportive but not doting. We had completely separate goals for our lives as well as goals together. Now that we have kids, my life has become much more about them so my Devoted has gone up.<br /><br />What's interesting to me is that my Solitary has gone up. Before kids, I went out a lot. Now I limit it to once a week. Since the children are a constant whenever they're awake, I like to spend more of my time alone after everyone is in bed.<br /><br /><b>What the PSP Can Tell You</b><br /><br />The Personality Self-Portrait measures things the Myers-Briggs doesn't. If you're high on the Devoted, stay away from people who are highly Aggressive or they'll take advantage of you and any relationship will be one way.<br /><br />If you're highly Conscientious and low Solitary, make sure your job lets you work with people. If you're high Leisurely and high Self-Confident and low Conscientious, find yourself a sugar<br />mommy/daddy. If you're high Idiosyncratic and low Sensitive, stay away from high Vigilant people who will box in your free-spirit by wanting to know your whereabouts every second of the day.<br /><br />I've interpreted around 100 PSP tests in the last 15 years trying to correlate scores with the Myers- Briggs. What I find is that the PSP gives me personality, while the MBTI gives me the default behaviors inside that personality. The Personality Self-Portrait has some holes because it doesn't explain the why. Why am I high Adventurous and not high Leisurely? I know the answer. For anyone else to know requires a conversation not a test.<br /><br />Tests tell you What, but the Whys make people unique. There's no Yes-No-Maybe test that will tell you a person's Whys.Sue Londonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12820606642097170654noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5636566.post-82446071218531715192009-02-28T17:14:00.000-05:002009-02-28T17:15:40.992-05:00Well, That's a Relief<table width=350 align=center border=0 cellspacing=0 cellpadding=2><tr><td bgcolor="#EEEEEE" align=center><br /><font face="Georgia, Times New Roman, Times, serif" style='color:black; font-size: 14pt;'><br /><strong>You Are Not a Jerk</strong><br /></font></td></tr><br /><tr><td bgcolor="#FFFFFF"><br /><center><img src="http://www.blogthingsimages.com/areyouajerkquiz/jerk-2.jpg" height="100" width="100"></center><br /><font color="#000000"><br />You treat everyone as fairly as possible. You think it's important to be good to people.<br /><br />You may feel like being rude at times, but you hold back. You are civilized.<br /><br /><br /><br />While you are considerate, you don't go overboard. You only show others the same respect you'd expect.<br /><br />Those who want to take advantage of you may accuse you of being a jerk, but in truth, they're the real jerks!<br /></font></td></tr></table><br /><div align="center"><a href="http://www.blogthings.com/areyouajerkquiz/">Are You a Jerk?</a></div>Sue Londonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12820606642097170654noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5636566.post-42307620338704057612009-02-14T00:45:00.000-05:002009-02-14T00:45:01.908-05:00They Called Me Thin...<table width=350 align=center border=0 cellspacing=0 cellpadding=2><tr><td bgcolor="#EEEEEE" align=center><br /><font face="Georgia, Times New Roman, Times, serif" style='color:black; font-size: 14pt;'><br /><strong>You Are Thin Mints</strong><br /></font></td></tr><br /><tr><td bgcolor="#FFFFFF"><br /><center><img src="http://www.blogthingsimages.com/whatgirlscoutcookieareyouquiz/thinmints.jpg" height="100" width="100"></center><br /><font color="#000000"><br />You are bold and brave. You dare to be different, and you are confident about who you are.<br /><br />Your fearlessness has paid off. You are extremely well liked and popular.<br /><br /><br /><br />You are charismatic and charming without even trying to be. People appreciate your unique take on life.<br /><br />You are willing to take risks, speak your mind, and live life to the fullest.<br /></font></td></tr></table><br /><div align="center"><a href="http://www.blogthings.com/whatgirlscoutcookieareyouquiz/">What Girl Scout Cookie Are You?</a></div>Sue Londonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12820606642097170654noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5636566.post-3946009627304711302008-08-09T12:41:00.005-05:002008-08-09T13:29:28.232-05:00Obsess Much?The book I'm reading, Creating a Life Worth Living, has an intriguing little section called "Cashing In on Your Bad Habits."<br /><blockquote>There is one last little tool I have used to get people thinking in new ways about day jobs. Use your compulsions, your obsessions, and your plain bad habits."</blockquote>Typical day in the life of Commander Sue: group of friends are out at a restaurant, a debate begins, Sue whips out her blackberry, friends roll their eyes and groan, and she uses her Soogle super-power to locate the correct answer. This obsession with locating information is second nature, I just have faster access to the answers now. Back in the day I had to remember the discussion until I was able to locate a source document that contained the facts. Aforementioned friends can corroborate that I would rarely forget to follow up. And it is never about proving myself right. I'll look up the answer when I didn't even have a stake in the debate and I'm actually quicker to communicate out the correct answer if I was debating and turned out to be wrong.<br /><br />I even have some specialized tools. As I've mentioned before, I'm a subscriber to the IMDB pro site and I drive my husband slightly crazy because I am usually reading up on the movies and television shows we watch and sometimes I (accidentally) announce things that ruin the cinematic experience.<br /><br />In Clifton StrengthsFinder parlance, this is actually an expression of my strengths #1 <span style="font-style: italic;">Learning</span> "...a great desire to learn and want to continuously improve...the process of learning, rather than the outcome, excites them..." and #5 <span style="font-style: italic;">Input</span> "...a craving to know more...like to collect and archive all kinds of information..."<br /><br />I'd never thought too much about it, but I suppose that someone might pay me for the research skills I've developed to feed by fact-finding obsession. For instance, I found this job listing for an <a href="http://www.lisjobs.com/jobs/item.asp?ID=39170">Online Research Librarian</a>. Not many people have taken me up on my <a href="http://cmdrsue.blogspot.com/2007/07/soogle.html">Soogle</a> offer yet, but maybe one day they will.<br /><br />I'm sure that what my friends would like to know is, if I spent more of my work time doing research would I spend less of my personal time doing it? I'm sure they hope so.Sue Londonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12820606642097170654noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5636566.post-44903360429373246382008-07-12T08:25:00.000-05:002008-07-12T08:25:00.640-05:00Leave Me Alone, I'm LearningI found a cool little site called <a href="http://www.learning-styles-online.com">learning-styles-online</a>. I took their free assessment and discovered that my top score (15 out of 20) was for the <a href="http://www.learning-styles-online.com/style/solitary%2Dintrapersonal/">Solitary Learning Style</a>, followed by the <a href="http://www.learning-styles-online.com/style/verbal%2Dlinguistic/">Verbal Learning Style</a> (13 out of 20).<br /><br />How do you learn best?Sue Londonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12820606642097170654noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5636566.post-56972736986777718392008-05-10T17:37:00.000-05:002008-05-10T17:38:16.676-05:00I Guess I Should Learn Elvish<table align="center" border="0" cellpadding="2" cellspacing="0" width="350"><tbody><tr><td align="center" bg style="color:#eeeeee;"><br /><span style="color: black; font-size: 14pt;font-family:Georgia, Times New Roman, Times, serif;" ><br /><strong>You Are Most Like Liv Tyler</strong><br /></span></td></tr><br /><tr><td bgcolor="#ffffff"><br /><center><img src="http://www.blogthingsimages.com/whatmodernbombshellareyoumostlikequiz/liv.jpg" height="100" width="100" /></center><br /><span style="color:#000000;"><br />“I don't want to spend so much time obsessing about myself.”<br /></span></td></tr></tbody></table><br /><div align="center"><a href="http://www.blogthings.com/whatmodernbombshellareyoumostlikequiz/">What Modern Bombshell Are You Most Like?</a></div>Sue Londonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12820606642097170654noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5636566.post-12291904637844561592008-05-10T17:23:00.001-05:002008-05-10T17:25:47.267-05:00The Other 18% is Caffeine<table align="center" border="0" cellpadding="2" cellspacing="0" width="350"><tbody><tr><td align="center" bg style="color:#eeeeee;"><br /><span style="color: black; font-size: 14pt;font-family:Georgia, Times New Roman, Times, serif;" ><br /><strong>You Are 82% Creative</strong><br /></span></td></tr><br /><tr><td bgcolor="#ffffff"><br /><center><img src="http://www.blogthingsimages.com/howcreativeareyouquiz/creative-5.jpg" height="100" width="100" /></center><br /><span style="color:#000000;"><br />You are an incredibly creative person. For you, there are no bounds or limits to your creativity.<br /><br />Your next creation could be something very great... Or at least very cool!<br /></span></td></tr></tbody></table><br /><div align="center"><a href="http://www.blogthings.com/howcreativeareyouquiz/">How Creative Are You?</a></div>Sue Londonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12820606642097170654noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5636566.post-11585194986740650582008-05-10T09:22:00.002-05:002008-05-10T09:33:02.203-05:00It's a Dog's LifeFor today's pop psych fun, go and <a href="http://www.helpself.com/happy.htm">compare yourself to your dog in this online quiz</a>. I will have to admit that the fuzzy creature snoozing on my feet right now turns out to be mentally healthier than me.Sue Londonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12820606642097170654noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5636566.post-60883141909379693212008-04-12T23:35:00.004-05:002008-04-13T00:30:18.013-05:00The Right StressLife is interesting, with each day revealing a bit more to us than the one before as long as we are paying attention. Like most people I spend most days doing anything but paying attention. Paying bills, petting the cat, reading the blogs... But every once in awhile I'm actually alert when the Cosmic Trickster decides to pull the curtain back for a second to let me in on some of the secrets of the universe. This week's lesson? The right kind of stress.<br /><br />See, I used to think that I was great at handling stress. Then over the last few years my attitude eroded and I became, well, difficult to deal with and a poster child of "overstressed." Then this past Thursday I got news that at first was fairly traumatic. It indicated that things were going to change. I had gotten used to the way things are and wasn't sure I liked the idea of change. But once over the initial shock something interesting happened. I was PSYCHED! Something that I had sort of known for years became completely, viscerally clear.<br /><br />I LOVE CHANGE.<br /><br />I love the challenge of change. I love the mental athletics of figuring out what to do, the mental and physical endurance required to see it through. My entire being is uplifted by facing the uncertainties and decisions required. I knew, on some level, that I love starting things. But I hadn't realized that it would triple my energy level and make me, you know, great to be around again. To go from grumpy, overworked be-atch to bouncy, enthusiastic songbird in about four hours is pretty amazing. It made me realize that the reason I had thought, previously, that I was good at handling stress is that earlier in my life THAT was the sort of stress that I was handling. A lot of people hate that sort of stress so they would look on me with wonder and confusion about how I could be so upbeat while dealing with it. Little did they (or I) know, it was GIVING me energy.<br /><br />That got me thinking and I realized that it is a common thing. Some situations that one person considers stressful, another thrives in. For instance, Winterwolf is energized responding to a disaster. Give him people to take care of, logistics to handle, and issues to negotiate - all while some horrible natural disaster is bearing down on him - and he is completely engaged. Put me in the same situation and, well, I wouldn't accept the situation. I'm not built for taking care of others in crisis. Contrariwise, he doesn't much care for leaping out into the great unknown and "building a parachute on the way down" in the way that I do. To an outside observer there may seem to be a lot of similarity between what we are energized by, but to us it seems radically different. When I want to start a business he keeps me from acting too quickly, when he needs to help someone who had a fire I stay home and take care of the dogs.<br /><br />So, basically, all of these things are only stressful to the people who shouldn't be doing them. And for each thing that you consider stressful there is probably someone who thrives on it like the nectar of life. Which makes me think that this is all some sort of cosmic puzzle.<br /><br />What stress is the right stress for you? What challenging things invigorate you while everyone else stands by and says, "Wow, I don't know how you manage to do that!"Sue Londonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12820606642097170654noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5636566.post-65380532306044286302008-04-05T19:18:00.002-05:002008-04-05T19:20:28.483-05:00They Say the Clothes Make the...<a href="http://www.quizmeme.com/clothes/quiz.php" target="_blank"></a><center><a href="http://www.quizmeme.com/clothes/quiz.php" target="_blank"><img src="http://www.quizmeme.com/clothes/results/sunny-f.gif" border="0" height="150" width="300" /><br /><span style=";font-family:verdana,arial,helvetica;font-size:78%;" >find your inner clothing style @ quizmeme.com</span></a></center>Sue Londonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12820606642097170654noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5636566.post-20051603307153510332008-03-29T21:31:00.002-05:002008-03-29T21:56:27.641-05:00Embrace Your HypocrisyThe post title comes from an old joke in our circle of friends, so I wasn't surprised by the <a href="http://www.spring.org.uk/2008/03/attitude-behaviour-gap-why-we-say-one.php">item on PsyBlog</a> that asserts "people have a nasty habit of saying one thing then doing the opposite." Ain't that the truth?<br /><br />What is most entertaining is our ability to see hypocrisy in others but not in ourselves. This is one reason why we should all try to practice an open mind and an open heart - so that we can hear it when someone calls us on our own. Then, like my friend, we can casually shrug and say, "Hey, I embrace my hypocrisy."Sue Londonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12820606642097170654noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5636566.post-34069387330012241402008-03-15T22:53:00.003-05:002008-03-15T23:07:47.591-05:00I Totally AgreeThanks to <a href="http://scoopsmangum.blogspot.com/2008/03/personality-quiz.html">Scoops Mangum</a> I found this new personality test. Apparently he and I are both highly agreeable which makes me think that we should take tea and have a nice session of agreeing on things.<br /><br /><b>My Personality</b><br /><table border="0" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" width="100%"><tbody><tr><td><br /></td><td><div style="width: 155px; height: 15px;"> </div><br /></td></tr><tr><td style="border-right: 1px solid rgb(150, 0, 0); width: 145px; padding-right: 5px; text-align: right;"><div style="overflow: hidden; white-space: nowrap; font-size: 12px;">Neuroticism</div></td><td style="padding: 0px;"><div style="border-top: 1px solid rgb(255, 100, 100); border-right: 1px solid rgb(150, 0, 0); border-bottom: 1px solid rgb(150, 0, 0); float: left; height: 18px; text-align: right; background-color: rgb(255, 0, 0); width: 24%;"><div style="float: right; color: white; padding-right: 2px; margin-top: 2px; font-size: 10px;">24</div></div></td></tr><tr><td style="border-right: 1px solid rgb(0, 0, 150); width: 145px; padding-right: 5px; text-align: right;"><div style="overflow: hidden; white-space: nowrap; font-size: 12px;">Extraversion</div></td><td style="padding: 0px;"><div style="border-top: 1px solid rgb(100, 100, 255); border-right: 1px solid rgb(0, 0, 150); border-bottom: 1px solid rgb(0, 0, 150); float: left; height: 18px; text-align: right; background-color: rgb(0, 0, 255); width: 36%;"><div style="float: right; color: white; padding-right: 2px; margin-top: 2px; font-size: 10px;">36</div></div></td></tr><tr><td style="border-right: 1px solid rgb(0, 90, 0); width: 145px; padding-right: 5px; text-align: right;"><div style="overflow: hidden; white-space: nowrap; font-size: 12px;">Openness to Experience</div></td><td style="padding: 0px;"><div style="border-top: 1px solid rgb(85, 159, 85); border-right: 1px solid rgb(0, 90, 0); border-bottom: 1px solid rgb(0, 90, 0); float: left; height: 18px; text-align: right; background-color: rgb(0, 128, 0); width: 67%;"><div style="float: right; color: white; padding-right: 2px; margin-top: 2px; font-size: 10px;">67</div></div></td></tr><tr><td style="border-right: 1px solid rgb(144, 115, 0); width: 145px; padding-right: 5px; text-align: right;"><div style="overflow: hidden; white-space: nowrap; font-size: 12px;">Agreeableness</div></td><td style="padding: 0px;"><div style="border-top: 1px solid rgb(255, 241, 170); border-right: 1px solid rgb(144, 115, 0); border-bottom: 1px solid rgb(144, 115, 0); float: left; height: 18px; text-align: right; background-color: rgb(251, 212, 0); width: 74%;"><div style="float: right; color: white; padding-right: 2px; margin-top: 2px; font-size: 10px;">74</div></div></td></tr><tr><td style="border-right: 1px solid rgb(80, 0, 80); width: 145px; padding-right: 5px; text-align: right;"><div style="overflow: hidden; white-space: nowrap; font-size: 12px;">Conscientiousness</div></td><td style="padding: 0px;"><div style="border-top: 1px solid rgb(149, 99, 151); border-right: 1px solid rgb(80, 0, 80); border-bottom: 1px solid rgb(80, 0, 80); float: left; height: 18px; text-align: right; background-color: rgb(128, 0, 128); width: 64%;"><div style="float: right; color: white; padding-right: 2px; margin-top: 2px; font-size: 10px;">64</div></div></td></tr></tbody></table><center><table border="0" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" width="100%"><tbody><tr><td><div style="width: 300px; height: 15px;"> </div><br /></td></tr><tr><td>You very rarely feel depressed and are usually in a good frame of mind, however you are not generally self conscious about yourself. You tend to feel overwhelmed by, and therefore actively avoid, large crowds. You often need privacy and time for yourself. You tend not to express your emotions openly and are sometimes not even aware of your own feelings. You see no need for pretense or manipulation when dealing with others and are therefore candid, frank and sincere. People find it relatively easy to relate to you, however you are mostly a compassionate person, however you prefer to make objective judgments when possible. You strive hard to achieve excellence. Your drive to be recognized as successful keeps you on track toward your lofty goals. You often have a strong sense of direction in life, but may sometimes be too single-minded and obsessed with your work.<br /><br /></td></tr><tr><td align="center"><nobr>Take a <a href="http://www.learnmyself.com/" target="_blank">Personality Test</a> now or view the full <a href="http://www.learnmyself.com/personality.asp?p=wpa-628330&x=PIx1x136347-136436x627fcx1" target="_blank" rel="nofollow">Personality Report</a>.<br /> </nobr></td></tr></tbody></table></center>Sue Londonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12820606642097170654noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5636566.post-85943499548182192612008-03-15T15:02:00.005-05:002008-03-15T15:54:58.023-05:00eBlarney? Finding Love in the 21st CenturyIn recognition of the fact that Saturday is Pop Psych day here at TTGSiMH I thought I would share the article "<a href="http://www.theatlantic.com/doc/200603/online-love">How Do I Love Thee?</a>" I was reading it earlier in my copy of "The Best of Technology Writing 2007" (which does have a lot of great articles and I highly recommend it).<br /><br />As you may have noticed, personality psychology fascinates me. Yet somehow when those assessments and methodologies are used in reference to relationships it feels to me like it borders on the profane. It is one thing to be entertained by the categorization of personal identifiers both large and small - "oh, hey, as an INFP I love art" (true) "and poetry" (false). It is yet another to have those sorts of assessments be the basis for sorting through and weeding out something as important as potential lifelong commitments. I'm not saying that there is something sacred about the usual course of human relationship-building (meeting at work or at the bar is pretty typical), just that I don't think that we humans know half of what we think we do and I hate seeing something that is still in the nascent stages of development being used as though it is some sort of Absolute Truth. Since much of the assessment is self-assessment it gives me little hope for accuracy. Do you know anyone who isn't self-deluding in some way? Granted, some of the methodologies include "complementary" as well as "similarity" metrics. But since along with common self-delusion I've also seen a lot of hypocrisy (believing one thing, doing another) in this life it gives me even less hope about a self-assessing test which then matches on similar and/or complementary items.<br /><br />That being said, I know that these dating websites can work. And I'm happy for anyone who finds happiness no matter how or where they find it (you know, as long it is legal, ethical, etc.) because I am a great believer in the importance of relationships. Just my INFP showing, as it also does with my dislike of rejecting people because they are different. Similarity? Complementary? Can't we all just get along? I am by nature accepting and including. Thus why I don't like using these methods of tossing out of the mix people who are different from your own profile. Unless, of course, you're irritating. Then I just want you to go away. (Hey, every rule has an exception and my inclusion rule has caveats.)<br /><br />My favorite quote from the article is actually from Dr. Warren, founder of eHarmony. Someone who I physically recoil from when I see his ads, but I find his words here comforting, nonetheless:<br /><br />“People have always thought, wrongly, that psychotherapy is a place to go deal with problems,” he said. “So when a couple would come in, I’d say, ‘Tell me how you fell in love. Tell me the funniest thing that’s happened in your marriage.’ If you want to make a relationship work, don’t talk about what you find missing in it! Talk about what you really like about it.”<br /><br />That, at least, sounds like good advice.Sue Londonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12820606642097170654noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5636566.post-16663488455540231992007-12-22T13:47:00.001-05:002008-03-28T20:49:55.769-05:00Maybe I'm a Dreamer, But I'm Not the Only One<blockquote>3/28/08 Update**Are you looking for the lyrics to John Lennon's "Imagine"? <a href="http://www.lyricsfreak.com/j/john+lennon/imagine_20254371.html">You can find them here.</a>**</blockquote><a href="http://cmdrsue.mypersonality.info/" target="_top"><img src="http://badges.mypersonality.info/badge/0/3/38960.png" alt="Click to view my Personality Profile page" border="0" /></a><br /><br />Good news? I'm highly creative and can express myself in words. Bad news? I may trip over my own shoelaces and kill myself. In fact, with that logic score I guess I should be proud I figured that out on my own...Sue Londonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12820606642097170654noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5636566.post-66478011373189908492007-11-17T16:42:00.000-05:002007-11-17T16:44:02.951-05:00Yep, Deanna Troi Again...<table class="blue_outline" border="0" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" height="200" width="100%"><tbody><tr><td align="left" background="http://www.psychtests.com/tests/images/grad_blue.gif" height="50"><span class="H2_light">Your Personality Type:</span> <br /> <span class="H2_black"> Counselor</span> </td> </tr> <tr> <td class="graph_table"> <table cellpadding="7" cellspacing="0"> <tbody><tr> <td> <!-- Type Start --> <span class="text"> Your interactive orientation, emotional strength, and acceptance of others make you the Counselor. You are the kind of person that friends and strangers alike turn to in times of need - you are never judgmental, and you always know the right thing to say. You reflect thoughtfully on the issues at hand, and don't give up until you reach some kind of insight or creative solution. Your interactions with others are characterized by warmth and caring, and your empathy and altruism do not go unnoticed. Your emotional stability and ability to give to others are gifts.<br /><br /><a href="http://www.psychtests.com/tests/personality/ampm_abridged_access.html">The AMPM Test</a><br /></span></td></tr></tbody></table></td></tr></tbody></table>Sue Londonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12820606642097170654noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5636566.post-89325356572132253252007-11-03T20:17:00.000-05:002007-11-03T20:53:14.905-05:00Dude, You So Get Me....To be filed under "cool... I think" comes the new online tool from <a href="http://blog.seattlepi.nwsource.com/venture/archives/124936.asp">Psychster, YouJustGetMe</a>. Friendster for psychos? No, no, no. Really. Sort of. Although it does seem like it could be used for some advanced stalking. What is Psychster, you ask? Well, you fill out a 40-question personality test and then your online "friends" answer the same 40 questions about you.<br /><blockquote>"It tells them if their online profile is communicating their personality faithfully to others," said <a href="http://www.psychster.com/library/EVANS_resume.pdf">David Evans</a>, </blockquote> Yeah. Or helps them to adjust their personalities until they are communicating something totally unlike themselves.<br /><br />Just sayin'.<br /><br />Would you use the Psychster tool on your website? And, if so, how would you use the data?<br /><br />Being me I, of course, <a href="http://www.youjustgetme.com/CmdrSue">took the test</a>. I don't entirely agree with the results. Although I am, by nature, pretty "Casual" I also work 24/7 so I don't like that they extrapolated a laid-back personality with shiftlessness. (That always happens to the Irish!) And by "Extroverted" they must really take into account muppets because I would definitely talk to them. But otherwise I'm pretty shy.<span style="font-size:85%;"><br /></span> <!-- long verbal personality summaries-->Sue Londonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12820606642097170654noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5636566.post-19476427705235808432007-10-27T20:03:00.000-05:002007-10-27T20:10:32.711-05:00Spider Web Brain Map(Test for Asperger Syndrome)<img src="http://www.rdos.net/eng/quizpoly.php?p1=34&p2=80&p3=33&p4=38&p5=75&p6=62&p7=28&p8=78&p9=33" />Sue Londonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12820606642097170654noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5636566.post-31709189414770410112007-10-13T23:06:00.000-05:002007-10-13T23:08:01.252-05:00It's Time to Do the Mash, the Monster Mash<table width=350 align=center border=0 cellspacing=0 cellpadding=2><tr><td bgcolor="#EEEEEE" align=center><font face="Georgia, Times New Roman, Times, serif" style='color:black; font-size: 14pt;'><b>You Are A Vampire</b></font></td></tr><tr><td bgcolor="#FFFFFF"><center><img src="http://images.blogthings.com/whatkindofmonsterareyouquiz/vampire.gif" height="100" width="100"></center><font color="#000000"><br />You have a real thirst for bliss, and you consider yourself a true hedonist.<br />And you're not afraid to walk alone in life, if it means getting what you truly crave.<br />You truly enjoy entrancing people. Not to mention the ensuing pleasures of the flesh. <br />Your tastes have been called decadent and bizarre. You usually give in to your temptations, no matter how primal<br /><br />Your greatest power: Your flawless ability to seduce and charm<br /><br />Your greatest weakness: Human flesh<br /><br />You play well with: Werewolves</font></td></tr></table><div align="center"><a href="http://www.blogthings.com/whatkindofmonsterareyouquiz/">What Kind of Monster Are You?</a></div>Sue Londonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12820606642097170654noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5636566.post-52733479356683960502007-09-08T11:54:00.000-05:002007-09-08T11:55:21.997-05:00I Guess I'm a Little Annoying...<table align="center" border="0" cellpadding="2" cellspacing="0" width="350"><tbody><tr><td align="center" bg style="color:#eeeeee;"><span style="color: black; font-size: 14pt;font-family:Georgia, Times New Roman, Times, serif;" ><b>You Scored an A</b></span></td></tr><tr><td bgcolor="#ffffff"><center><img src="http://images.blogthings.com/theitsitstheretheirtheyrequiz/a.gif" height="100" width="100" /></center><span style="color:#000000;"><br />You got 10/10 questions correct.<br /><br />It's pretty obvious that you don't make basic grammatical errors.<br />If anything, you're annoyed when people make simple mistakes on their blogs.<br />As far as people with bad grammar go, you know they're only human.<br />And it's humanity and its current condition that truly disturb you sometimes.<br /></span></td></tr></tbody></table><div align="center"><a href="http://www.blogthings.com/theitsitstheretheirtheyrequiz/">The It's Its There Their They're Quiz</a></div>Sue Londonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12820606642097170654noreply@blogger.com1